In the weeks that I have not been writing I've been spending some time with my Grandmother. She met my Grandfather at 15 and by 16 they were married. They were married for more than 50 years and over the past couple of months I've gotten to hear so many new stories about their marriage that never came up when they had each other to live with and love with every single day. I have this romantic (albeit naive) idea that they spent that time focused on each other and on life and didn't spend much time focusing on the details of how it all got started. I'd trade every story to have him back with us and I think her telling me the stories are her way of trying to make that trade too.
At the beginning of May my own focus shifted away from planning a wedding and daydreaming about a future with my husband-to-be and turned back to my family that's going through a difficult time as my Uncle was hospitalized and has passed away unexpectedly. We are actually getting married on my uncle's birthday and that feels like a small way to have him there with us. It has been a rough go of it. Healing requires having something to look forward to and now more than ever I want to throw a wedding that our family can look forward to and just cut loose for a while. My cousin will be giving birth in October and I think these two events help to keep us all going when its harder than usual to do so. I wish she could be here for the day but Alaska is pretty far away even before you add a baby belly to the picture.
All the while, Nancy continued to work on the dress and made so much progress! The dress will be completed this week. On Sunday my Mom, sister-in-law, and mother-in-law threw me a gorgeous bridal shower. It was a great day and I gave everyone who attended a sneak peak of the dress and the reactions made me feel like a fairy tale princess. It is all coming together and I can't wait to do a blog reveal soon!
At my shower I was given the most beautiful gift that I also can't wait to share in a future post. The mother and grandmother of our (human) ring bearer, Silas, teamed up to create beautiful bouquets for Amy and me, as well as one to toss at the reception, and amazingly gorgeous corsages for our moms and grandmothers. They were able to give them to me at the shower because they are all made of incredibly lifelike permanent botanicals so that we can keep them forever. My friend Kristen always made fun of my love of "fake" flowers in decorating the apartments we shared but I think even she will find these flowers breath taking.
I am so grateful to have so many people helping us make this day a living dream. It is coming up so fast and I'm trying to savor every single moment. Planning has been fun and I don't feel like I've been stressed by this wedding at all. I hope that is a good sign the marriage will be just as easy... :)
The next few weeks will be challenging and go by fast but I think they will still be fun as long as we stick to our motto: If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong. One way to keep myself having fun is to continue to be the silly girl that I've always been. In trying on my undergarments for my dress I realized that Wonderwoman would eat her heart out if she saw me because it is nothing short of a superhero's dream costume. From here on out I'm going to start thinking of this like I have an inner wedding planning superhero on my side. Her name is BRIDEGIRL. In response to any dillema my mantra can be "What would Bridegirl do?!" When she isn't answering my questions I romantically visualize that she is fighting my inner Bridezilla that we all have somewhere inside of us. Its going to be an epic battle and I hope you'll join me.
<3 The Future Mrs. Luce
44 Days until the WEDDING
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